Alienating our Allies

My Uncle Thomas was so handsome. He rocked a handlebar mustache, was built with muscle, and had the most beautiful smile. From stories told by my aunts, he would light up the room when he walked in. He was funny and smart. And everyone loved him.    One of my earliest memories of my Uncle…

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With Dreams in Our Pockets

Love is a magical thing. It often comes out of nowhere and bites us in places that we wouldn’t think possible. TRUE love is something we all long for yet is so hard to find. Every family begins somewhere. With a dream in our pockets and hope in our hearts we started our own journey…

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Stand Up and Speak Out, Part 1

Four years ago we received the phone call that changed our lives forever. We were told that in our own city of New Orleans, there was a newborn baby that needed a forever home. What we were told by the agency would likely take 5 or more years took mere weeks. We frantically started putting…

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Stand Up and Speak Out, Part 2

Twenty years ago when I came out, it was unbearably hard. As I have written before, I am from the Deep South. Anyone who dares to deviate from social norms was sure to be ostracized. It’s not that these people were born hateful or mean, rather, it probably was more to do with not them…

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Turn it Off

It is so easy to get sucked down the rabbit hole of the world’s social and political drama. We want to protect our babies from everything. So does that mean we have to be glued to Rachel Maddow & Anderson Cooper every night? The thing is, our news media is not what it used to…

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The Bravest Knight

A couple of months back, I posted an article about a new and progressive cartoon about a little girl and her two dads called “The Bravest Knight”. It is now streaming on HULU. I was eager to post it to my Nolapapa Facebook page because I found it very inspiring and I wanted to help spread the…

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The Unicorn Effect

I was working at a night club on Bourbon Street and stepped into the back. He sat at a desk filling out a new hire work form. At that moment it was like time stopped. It was like the beating of the bass from the music on the dance floor silenced, and all I could…

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Then Came Pride

What would I say to the ones who were brave enough to divert the raging river of injustice? Our world today is indebted to the fearless rejectionists who so eagerly stood, loud and proud. Also to those who sat down in quiet defiance, hellbent on changing our society’s corruption, despotism, and prejudices. Life can be…

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Pride Reflections

As we look back on Gay Pride 2017, let us take notice at just how far we have come in just a matter of a few years. As our LGBTQ family united this past month, we saw an unprecedented amount of support from several multi national corporations taking a stand to help break the stigma…

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Silver Linings

The past year and half have been some of the best moments Douglas and I have ever shared together. We have learned so much more about each other than we thought we could after sharing over a decade with each other. We have learned how to calm each other down after a rough night, to…

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